Control is a key aspect in life. It is my supposed route to safety and desired outcomes for all I want to do. Unfortunately it is easy to loose my/ourselves in an attempt to control a situation for an outcome. People pleasing, fawning, gaslighting, lying. All can be attempts at control.

Don Miguel Ruiz Love is not what we commonly think it is. This is at the root of many of today’s relationship problems- with our selves and others.

Each of us seeks ways to feel safe, important, and contributing. What happens when these good desires are reached in the wrong way? Last night I dreamed, the strangest dream, a man could ever dream…” This song happened in vivid color for me in a beach-front hotel in Samara, Costa Rica. I slept soundly after…